When Parenting Feels Heavy

This was me not too long ago. Along with the feelings of frustration. And overwhelm. And resentment.. Trying to do everything. Control everything. Feeling guilty if I relaxed or giving up sleep or exercise to collapse in front of the tv. Trying to read articles and books to “fix” my kids defiant, disrespectful, lack of independence, listening and cooperation behaviors.

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Navigating conflict

Teaching our child to navigate conflict begins with how we show up as the parent to conflict. What becomes possible when conflict is not longer seen as something to avoid but simply as a difference in opinion, preference and desire and both parties can be heard and find a collaborative agreement.

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7 Things I Learned This Summer (from a mom just trying to survive:-)

I thought I'd reflect on the past wonderful, hot, sometimes crazy but always (except when the boys were fighting) fun months just past.

7 Things I learned this summer... 1. It's okay to let go of my good intentions to continue school work  because they learn simply in the art of being kids with curiosity and creativity.  They learn that no matter how fast you can run you'll never be as fast as the Flash and run across the pool.

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The Perfect Day

I thought I could stop yelling by imagining this perfect day into existence. I thought if I planned enough.  Controlled enough.  That if the plan didn't happen it was because I wasn't figuring out how to plan it just right.

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The Tale of Two Bedtimes: How Changing My Mindset was Key (and could be for you too).

I laugh at the assumptions I'd made at how I thought you can "control" bedtime.  But I've heard the same from so many other parents where the struggle for survival (and getting any sleep) becomes greater than the carefully crafted sleep plan to get your kid to self soothe and fall asleep and stay asleep

When I became the mom he needed at bedtime.  When I was able to let go of my agenda and expectations, we co-created a bedtime routine that works (most nights anyway, I mean he's still 7!)

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