Episode 24: Is that really true? Busting Through Beliefs.
Wow. This past year has sure given us all a giant opportunity to ask ourselves the famous Byron Katie question, "is it true?" (I highly recommend clicking her name. Phenomenal work she puts into the world.) With all the emotionally triggering events of this past year, we've had ample opportunities for growth. Almost more than I can bear.
"You are so much more powerful than you realize."
The whole idea discussed in this episode is that we control our experiences completely. I know this can be a hard pill to swallow, especially at first. It is an ongoing journey to accept & integrate this reality. But the thing is, what's happening "out there" has no power over us. It's our thoughts & the meanings we make about "out there" that creates our experience.
So for example, my husband sitting on the couch glued to his phone while I make dinner & deal with the kids and not even offering to help with anything isn't what's making me mad. It's the thought that he isn't appreciating me because if he did, he would help out, that's causing my anger. So I can ask myself, "is it true that he doesn't appreciate me?" Well, no, it's not true. "Is it true that if he appreciated me, he would show it by offering to help during dinner prep?" Not at all. But damn, it sure does seem like it to me.
"Your feelings are the effect of your thinking, not evidence that your thinking is true."
Breathe that in. Read it again. We are not right. We are just humans believing our experience is truth. And to be fair, it is for us. But because we create it, we have the power to change it. It is hard work and it flusters our brain which is fighting like mad to be right (for survival purposes), which is why it feels downright impossible at times. But,
"There's nothing wrong with you that you can't have what you want."
Damn straight, sister. And in order to have what we want, we have to look within at what we are believing, because "our beliefs become our self-fulfilling prophecies." And "a belief is just a thought you keep thinking...[one] that has a lot of years behind it and a lot of evidence attached to it." So as we question our thoughts, we are able to shift our beliefs & our feelings. And since feelings drive actions, shifting to feelings of joy, love, acceptance, creates an experience that embodies these feelings. And isn’t that what we’re all after?
Hear me please when I say this: creating love, joy, peace, happiness, is AN INSIDE JOB. Always, and without exception.
Honestly, I could go on & on and could have probably written this entire blog with quotes just from the episode (so many golden nuggets of wisdom), but I invite you to listen. It could totally change your life & your relationships.
"You can change your thinking and your thinking will change your feelings, your actions, your results and transform your relationships from the inside out."
P.S. Let’s keep the conversation going! Join me over in the Thrive in Motherhood group!